FIVE HABITS OF HAPPINESS
“Over the past five years, I’ve researched happiness in 49 countries,” says Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage. “We found, throughout the world, that there are five habits that affect success outcomes and health.”
1. The three gratitudes. Every day, make a list of three new things that you are grateful for.
2. Two-minute journaling. Take two minutes to write about a positive experience, no matter how small.
3. Fifteen minutes of fun. Set aside 15 minutes each day for a fun, mindful activity, such as taking a walk with a loved one.
4. Make time to meditate. Practice meditation for two minutes each day. Focus on your breath. (Don’t worry if your mind wanders!)
5. Reach out. Write a two-minute positive email praising or thanking someone in your social circle.
Now you have found the one you want to spend your life with, so it's time for the next big question... which family are you going to spend the holidays with? Luckily there are several holidays so the two of you get to decide with whom, when and where you spend these special days. Some circumstances are tricky - but you get to be creative, communicate and figure it out-- together. And you know what?- if you don't get it right this year, you have many years to practice. Here are some things I suggest you talk about with your loved one... maybe today?
Holiday traditons and the in-laws
1. Talk about the holidays- How do you feel about each holiday? How did you spend your holidays before the two of you met?
2. Talk about how you spent the holidays when you were a child. What traditions did you have? Which ones would you like to keep for your family? What would you like to change?
3. Agree on how you as a couple would like to establish traditions. Try to be fair. Balance is the key and realize that you will always be adjusting. Being flexible and setting boundaries may just be the key.
4. Remember holidays are emotional times for everyone and we like it like that-- usually! Remember you probably can't make everyone happy, so decide what is the best decision for the two of you, then stick to it and be loyal to your spouse.
5. Always check with your loved one before commiting to an event. (I thought a surprise was fun, but have found out that didn't go over so hot - breakfast in bed would have been a better surprise!)
Good Things Utah and Robin at BrideAccess.com and will give you more suggestions...
There are many options on how to spend the holidays ...
His family's home one year, hers the next.
One day at his home, one day at hers.
A few hours at his family's home, a few hours at hers.
Thanksgiving with his family, Christmas with hers.
Christmas Eve with his, Christmas Day with hers.
Everyone comes to your home.
If you can't come to a resolution, consider a vacation-- just the two of you!